I am sure as a child you remember those conversations where you silently thought your parents were slightly off their rocker.
It’s a moment most of us won’t forget. Here is my version.
My mother’s thinking process, for the most part of my childhood usually made sense. When she would ask me to do something as an obedient but very observing child I could see the logic and the benefit behind her request. But one day, I don’t recall what my mother had asked me to do, but I do remember thinking to myself: “This does not make any sense” and THEN I tried to reason with the woman, which only made her even more frustrated with me. That led to the defining moment when I realized that my mother knew that what she was asking of me was not reasonable. So the only way to get me to obey was to pull the all-time famous parental rank: BECAUSE I SAID SO!
Do you remember the first time you heard that? It’s funny looking back now. I often told myself that if I had a child I would not pull that rank. I would hope as a parent I’d be fair with my requests. I think “because I said so” is a way to get someone who is dependent on you to fall into line quickly, without a thorough explanation. I’d hope I’d be the kind of parent whose children willingly listened to a request because they knew it came from a place of reason. I only hope I’d have the time to tell my child the reason behind my request, versus the swift and quick reaction.
Maybe you parents can share how you get around it if you can.
So what happens when that child becomes an adult and another adult pulls the “because I said so” response?
“A woman's silence says it all. Her silence
& lack of expression means that she's reached her breaking point!”-Anon
I just watched Robin Thicke singing to his
soon to be ex-wife Paula Patton, on the Billboard Awards, in an attempt to try
and win her back. I actually thought it was kind of sweet. But poor guy, I want
to give him a hug, he’s trying. But if Paula has hit her tipping point, that
song may not have any affect on her decision to go back to him. As a matter of
fact I really thought at some point R&B singer R Kelly was going to enter
stage left crooning his hit song “When A Woman Is Fed Up.” Oh Robin, how could you not
I can’t speak on any other woman’s
experience but I know when I am done, it’s the most liberating moment ever. You
know, there are those relationships that are super easy to walk away from. But
then there are those situations where your loyalty and love are so deeply entrenched
that it’s just hard to walk away. I know loyalty made me stay i…
“We don't realize
that, somewhere within us all, there does exist a supreme self who is eternally
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
Our inherent spiritual state of being is love, joy and peace,
all in balance. This is a causeless state, meaning there is no outside influence
for the condition. Anything outside of our Self is either an addition, a subtraction
or an irritant to those three main states.
Fear is not an attribute of the spirit. It has been said that
fear and all that comes with it are manifestations and experiences within our
physical existence. By dancing with fear
and ego and feeling the overwhelming pains and discovering the spiritual disassociation linked to them, we eventually begin our journeyback to our original
How does one know that they are closer to these main states or in balance? You
will just know. It will vary as your individual spirit is beautiful and unique.
Perhaps, it could be that your evolution may unfold in a way
where you be…
One of the most amusing things I have every witnessed is a
spiritual mentor having a mini meltdown.
Oh no! Don’t get it twisted! The most zen personalities have these
moments. Yes, they use foul language! Yes! They get overwhelmed by all the energies
shooting on the planet! Despite all the awareness, peace and love that
they feel, they are also on their journey too. The
beautiful part about all this is that they give us the novices, those of us in
training hope and reassurance, that our meltdowns are a normal part of the
I had a particularly profound meltdown the week that Black Lives
Matter exploded this summer. There I was alone at home, writhing in by bed
completely aghast with one singular thought: I am trapped on this damn planet
and I cannot get off! I felt so suffocated!
Looking back now it was quite hilarious. However in that
moment I was in full melodrama mode! Why would a person feel that way? Imagine feeling
all the love, peace and happiness your soul can hold…